I need to stop making excuses and just post more.
Wedding planning is finally becoming less stressful and more enjoyable. I should have blogged through all the misery, but surely they’ll be more down the road, so fear not, friends.
To catch you up, we’ve secured our ceremony location (pictured here!), our reception location (although there’s a chance this will change - stay tuned), and we’ve both purchased our dresses! Crazy, right? And we’ve only been engaged for four months! We still have a year and five months to go!
Before we were engaged, I insisted that we have a really long engagement - like three years long - but now that we’re engaged, I’d like to just get this all over with already! I saw engagement as a time to, not only prepare for your wedding, but to prepare for your new life together. I thought there were things you needed to sort out before marriage. But I’m realizing that that’s what our five year relationship leading up to our engagement was for.
Together, we already share a bed, clothes, bank accounts, health insurance, successes, and worries. We’re already living one life together.
Right now, there are some complications in that life, sure. We’re currently living at my childhood home with my parents, younger brother, and our family’s two cats. This is certainly a challenge and not ideal, but it was necessary. Our intention was to move out of our apartment where we weren’t saving any money, live at home for a year or so, save a boatload of money, buy a house together, and start our wonderful life together. Two months after moving back home, I proposed. Whoops, I messed up our plan! Right?
Our plan always included marriage at some point, we just didn’t have a set timeline, so it was totally fine that I proposed! Until we realized that weddings are EXPENSIVE and they cost the same amount as a downpayment on a house. So here are more complications.
Do we have the big gay wedding of our dreams and not buy a house just yet? Do we buy a house and have a tiny wedding? Do we have a tiny wedding and then move some place far away and really start a brand new life together??
As of right now, we don’t have the answers. We just keep putting down deposits and pray for the best.
I’ll let you know how it goes!