Jess & Jackie

#358.

So allow me to vent for a minute…

This is what happens when you Google image search for “lesbian cake toppers”. I have searched for this before and it just doesn’t end well. Most of the time they sell individual plastic brides. You can get a blonde butch girl in a tux or a brunette butch girl in a tux (obviously with short hair). You can get a blonde femme girl in a dress or a brunette femme girl in a dress (obviously with long hair). I just want to give up!

I think we have decided to not have a cake topper. I’m kind of sad about it but I’m not going to settle for something that doesn’t actually represent me! If anyone has any ideas where we can get some “normal” looking ones (not cheap looking) let us know!

#361.
Here’s a mock centerpiece that Jess made! I think it’s perfect and exactly what I envisioned.

I especially love the table number. It’s an unfinished frame that she stained, a sheet of scrapbook paper, and a house number from a hardware store!

It took us SO LONG to agree on a theme or “feel” for the wedding. It was definitely one of the most stressful elements so far. We have lots of interests and there are lots of things that are important to us that we wanted to include. Themes and color schemes we considered: Boston with cranberry red, navy blue, and ivory; Americana with the same colors; “modern baroque” with magenta, teal, and black and white; and “classic navy yard” with navy and yellow.

We are so much happier with this “feel” and color scheme. As I said a few days ago, we love Fall. We want to capture our love of Fall and some of our favorite Fall funtivities, like visiting orchards and farm stands. We want it to be rustic and feel like New England. I love the lanterns and the berries and the candles! Ah!

This is just the beginning!

#365.

So I figure you’ve heard from Jackie enough now it’s my turn to post… I want to talk to you about the process of wedding planning. Now the hetero brides have it easy! They plan a wedding and for the most part their future husbands just sit and nod. As you can probably tell our wedding isn’t going to have cute bride and groom wedding cake toppers. First of all they are so tacky and second of all neither of us is a man. And as you also may have guessed having two women try to plan the same event is, well, NEXT TO IMPOSSIBLE! We each have different opinions on EVERYTHING from hymns to envelope liners (which I think give an extra added touch dont you think?) Don’t get me wrong. I have loved every second of wedding planning. I’ve been dreaming of it my whole life. I’ve been buying wedding magazines since high school (although now I’ve gotten a bit out of control. Don’t ask Jackie how many she’s thrown away lately!) I see so many cute ideas in magazines that would be perfect for MY wedding but not OUR wedding. I have to take a break and remember who this day is actually about… us. Not her. Not me (although I’d like to think so). The key word that anyone should remember when planning a wedding is compromise. You want the day to reflect the two of you. Don’t worry about the “hottest wedding trend”. Worry about what is going to make the day special for the two of you! 

1 year from today, Jess and I will be married.

366 days.

Join us here to follow our progress and help us countdown what should prove to be one the craziest years of our life.

Thank you for you love and support. We couldn’t do this without you.